Fearless Reloaded Conference

 

Fearless Reloaded

The Fearless Reloaded conference was an awesome and engaging experience. The 3-day conference consisted of a series of panels and networking opportunities. The conference presented many opportunities to engage with Black-Women owned businesses.

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Day 1 – Cocktail Reception

  • The cocktail reception was an awesome kick-off to the conference to engage with panelist and business owners in a relaxed setting.

Day 2 – Fearless Conference – This was a fulfilling 12-hour day!

Personal Note: What an awesome way to wake up on a Saturday. Excellent view (conference held on 27th floor), bomb music (DJ was poppin), and being in a room filled with #BlackGirlMagic!

Keynote Speaker – Pat Smith (Author/Actress)

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    • Theme: Second Chances & Transparency
    • For many years, Pat felt like she had to fake her brokenness and hide her imperfections to be accepted and respected.
    • Use your setbacks, rejections, and down falls as opportunities to re-direct your journey.
    • Losing in the Miss USA pageant altered her perspective and she saw 1st runner up as a failure. She tried to find things to fill the void she developed from losing.
    • She was hurting on the inside, and felt like she had to fake it to make it.
  • Use your test as a testimony and sharing how you encountered and overcame adversity.
    • In order to be fearless, you have to be transparent.
    • “When you’re broken, God can use you.” – Pat
  • Jealousy: She found herself being jealous of her husband for continuing to pursue his interest after football.
    • She had to check herself, and realized she felt this way because she was not walking in her purpose.
    • We can admire, but shouldn’t be envious. When you walk in your own purpose, you can genuinely clap for others success.
    • “If he’s called you for it, he’ll make provisions for it.” Pat

Finance – (Nicole Collette, Dominique Broadway, Erika Blair, Ngum Sue)

    • Theme: How to build wealth and financially invest for the present and future
    • Investment Portfolio should consist of stock, crypto-currency, and real-estate.
      • Stocks
        • Look at what products you use on a regular basis and look for investment opportunities there.
      • Cyrpto-currency
        • Put 5% of your investment portfolio in cryto-currency.
      • Real Estate
        • Buy Tax Lein Properties.
        • Look into Detroit and Baltimore for investment property.
    • Invest in yourself first:
      • Developing a good relationship with your finances
      • Financial Education
      • Monetize on things you enjoy
    • Multiple Streams of income
      • When evaluating multiple streams of income, perfect the first, before moving on to the second.
      • Making your streams of income relatable
        • I.e. Public speaking engagements, books, consulting.

Faith

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  • Daily Spiritual Practices
    • Set aside time daily for personal devotion.
    • Set aside time daily for family devotion.
    • Time Management:
      • Set Priorities
      • Create to-do list
      • Set a strict schedule
  • Pivot in moments of failure and self-doubt.
    • Recognize that you are your biggest critc.
    • Speak positive affirmations to combat the self-doubt.
    • Realize that success is defined by how you fulfill your purpose.
    • “It takes a tribe to launch a successful business” – Christina
    • Surround yourself with people who are ahead of you in business and/or faith to pour into your life.
    • Allow every situation to grow your faith.
  • Refill your cup – Self Care
    • Taking daily & weekly time for self to quiet the noise, shut-down, and unplug.
    • Therapy is an important part of self-care
    • God can’t use you if you’re empty
    • Be careful not to become addicted to busy!
      • You can’t be everything to everybody.
      • Analyze life and lean-in to what needs your attention and what can wait.
      • Evaluate if it’s the time or season for this endeavor.
      • Say yes to important
    • “If you’re always doing, we’re not growing.” – Aventar Gray

Hustlers – (Karen Civil, Karleen Roy, Angel White, Necole Kane, Tahirah Joy, Cesily)

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  • Handling Rejection:
    • Why did we receive this no? Is this an opportunity to re-direct or go harder?
    • When you start feeling uncomfortable in business, it’s time to evaluate your presence in this space.
  • Monetize without overshadowing passion
    • Creating goals for every networking event
    • “Don’t chase the check, chase the relationship!” – Karleen Roy
  • Success
    • In your 20’s, success is doing what brings you a check.
    • In your 30’s success is doing what brings you peace.
  • Strengths / Weaknesses
    • Doing an accurate evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Get a clear understanding of things that bring you joy and move forward in that space.
    • Outsource things that are not a strength and focus your energy on things that make you happy.

Family Business – (McBride Sisters)

  • Theme: Dreaming and Driving
  • Have Unapologetic tenacity: Never apologize for your passion or intelligence
  • Biggest Challenges:
    • No Money
    • No Experience
  • The Journey
    • Started as a wine import company
    • Hit the grown running and went from a wine import company to a wine company in 4 years.
    • Key – Created strategic relationships with large wine companies as mentors and partners and realigned once partnerships were no longer viable.
    • Mentorship
      • It’s important to have mentors and experts around to guide you.

Health & Wellness

  • Heart Disease is killing women
    • 80% of heart disease cases are preventable or reversible.
  • Fibroids
    • 8 out of 10 women suffer from fibroids
    • Fibroids are treatable and a hysterectomy should NOT be the option to treat fibroids.
  • Therapy is IMPORTANT
    • Therapy helps you learn yourself.
    • Vulnerability is a strength.
    • Sharing your highlight wheel is not the most important thing when sharing your journey, being vulnerable and sharing the obstacles are what help other people overcome their obstacles.

Fearless Reunion – (Michelle Williams, Keisha Knight Pulliam, Meagan Good)

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  • Consistent Self-Care Practice
    • Meditation
    • Prayer
    • Affirmation
    • Be Present
    • “Keep your power and not taking ownership of others opinions of you.” – KKP
  • Enjoy the Journey
    • Be aware that you’re in the process
    • Be Patient
    • Work hard until you manifest your dreams into reality.
    • Work to combat imposter syndrome
    • Everything we go through is a vessel to get to the present.
    • Share your journey with others.
  • What would you tell your younger self?
    • It’s ok to have standards. – MW
    • You teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself. – KKP
    • You’re AMAZING and UNSTOPPABLE. There is nothing you can’t accomplish. – KKP
    • You’re worthy. – MG
    • Relinquish the vision of how you thought things were supposed to go and embrace the way things are.

Guest Speaker/ Keynote – Devon Franklin

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  • Key Takeaways from this Talk
    • Success = Peace
    • God is the only one who can direct your story.
    • Make your fears your to-do list.
    • Keep your intentions pure.
    • Problems are an opportunity for reward.
    • Always serve others.
    • Owning your differences and be you you’re supposed to be.
    • We’re all given talent and time:
      • Disengage with people who waste your time
      • Time is like good seed, it produces something.

Day 3 – Fearless Brunch

Mother/Wife/Entrepreneur

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  • Key Takeaways from this Talk
    • You can have it all!!
    • You need to define what having it all is for you.
    • Success is not defined by money, but freedom and flexibility. -Monique Rodriquez (Mielle Organics)
    • Don’t think of trying to balance everything in your life, but how do you integrate everything in your life!
    • Parenthood: your presence is not important, you being present in their life is important.
    • Ruthless prioritization is important and designating time for certain things.
    • Surround yourself with people who are strong where you’re weak. To give you support where you need it.
    • Speak words of encouragement and appreciation to your partner.
    • Communicate with your partner what you’re thinking and how you feel.
    • Success is not Owned it’s rented, and rent is due every day. – quote Monique Rodriquez
    • Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone’s chapter 300. – Monique Rodriquez
    • In our lack, God is more than enough.
    • Stop serving from your fumes, serve from your over flow. – Nikki
    • Peace is the new success.

 

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On December 17, 2016, I turned 30 years old. I have never felt so fulfilled in all of my life. I am a woman who experienced pain, embarrassment, love, loss, death, life, excitement, and accomplishment in my 20’s. I’m excited to close the door to the 20th chapter of my life, and open the door to Chapter 30!

I look forward to seeing my hard work pay off in my 30’s. I’m seeing it now in the first week! I look forward to being more carefree and enjoying every single moment.

I look forward to saying F the stretch marks, and so what if I’m squeezing into my size 6 jeans. Knowing next week, they may be an 8.

I look forward to traveling and seeing the world with my beautiful baby girl!

My 20’s taught me:

1. Strive for Greatness.
2. Stay humble.
3. Give Back.
4. Love yourself.
5. Be relentless about making your dreams a reality.
6. Knowing that what is meant to be will be.
7. Hard work pays off.
8. Be confident.
9. Know your worth.
10. F* your pride.
11. Do what makes you happy.
12. Self-Care is a must.
13. Work-Out.
14. Be kind to others.
15. Allow people to be who they are.
16. Your circle reflects you.
17. Eliminate toxic people from your life.
18. If you focus on you, you won’t see where others are lacking.
19. Have integrity.
20. TRAVEL! – See the world.
21. Use spellcheck.
22. Show appreciation.
23. Be Grateful.
24. Think before you speak.
25. Help heal and not tear down.
26. Write your goals on paper.
27. Be honest and have tact.
28. Privacy is important.
29. Be organized.
30. Slay.

Young People…. STOP F*ing up your life.

There is a young woman who is 23 years old. I’ve known her all of her life. Her sister is one of my Best Friends, and our families have been close since before I was born.

This young sista is beautiful and smart (or so I thought). She has not always made the right decisions but really who has? From the outside looking in, I thought she was trying. She had gone out of state for college, but a series of poor decisions brought her home to her sister’s couch without a degree. She ended up finding retail employment for about $12.00 per hour.

Me being the problem-solving diva that I am, I reached out to her to let her know about a free training program in her field of interest that could potentially double her income. This training program would be free to her for 5 to 6 hours a day for 16 weeks. Previous graduates of this program are making between $20.00 to $40.00 per hour.

She led me to believe she was really interested in this opportunity. She attended the orientation, completed the test, and participated in 3 interviews, just to not show up on the first day of class.

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This is a program that had over 100 applicants for 23 spaces. I spoke to the instructor and the counselors to ensure she got into this cohort. I feel like she slapped me in the face and F*d off an opportunity to change her life.

She’s standing still right now, with no direction as to where her life is going. She’s not thinking about her future and is consumed with getting her nails done and ordering the best hair for her sew-in. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s nothing wrong with getting your hair and nails done, but that can’t be the purpose of your life.

I just want to yell, what the hell is wrong with you? You’re not living up to your potential and as an adult, it’s no ones fault but your own. Be accountable, be a woman of your word, and don’t drag other people down with you. I didn’t have to put my name on the line for you, I didn’t have to extend the olive branch to give you a life-changing opportunity, but I did because I love you, I respect you, and I know you could have a bright future if you apply yourself and commit to something.

What’s, even more, sad is the lack of accountability and the need to play the blame game instead of saying I F*d up. I took it back to our Shule Mandela Academy days and recited a portion of a pledge we recited daily that stated: “All learning is not fun, some learning is tedious, but we cannot be black and proud, and all so be dumb, therefore we must learn, we are the next generation.” I get crickets from her, so I’m done. I can no longer help people that don’t want to help themselves.

Fortunately, I don’t mind helping another young sista, I just can’t help her.

Call to Action: Young People, take control of your life and Live life to it’s fullest potential because we only get one. Take advantage of every opportunity and go for all of your dreams!

Teach.Inspire.Motivate.Empower

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No Discounts in 2016

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Often times with relationships, all relationships including friendships, romantic relationships, and relationships with family, we let other people treat us in a manner that doesn’t make us feel good. We allow them to lie to us (discount), make fools of us (discount), and not be people of their word (discount). When we allow people to treat us in this manner, we feel hurt, we feel unworthy, and we feel insignificant. When we let people do this to us time and time again, we are giving them discounts, which show how we feel about ourselves as oppose to how another person feels about us. When you know your value, you don’t give discounts.

When you think of High-end Luxury brands, you’ll notice that they don’t discount their prices, because they know their worth, and understand that people, who value their product, will pay what is asked. We need to know our worth, and when people don’t value and/or appreciate us, we need to let them go. In life, some people will be leaves, others will be branches, and it’s up to us to figure out who deserves to be permanent fixtures in our lives.

I’m not allowing people to treat me like I’m a fool in 2016, it is true that I don’t have control over their actions, but I do have control over who is a part of my life, and this year I’m moving forward to live Happy, Healthy, and Wealthy. I have no time for people seeking discounts, people who are constantly taking and never giving, people who are not equally yoked, and people that don’t appreciate the value I contribute.

I wish you all a Joyous, Prosperous, and Happy 2016!

Teach.Inspire.Motivate.Empower

Picture from the amazing artist Pienele Chill