My best friend has been seeing a guy off and on for 5 years. OMG……he is such a freaking DOGGGGGG. He is tall, dark, handsome, and very successful. A recipe for DOGG…..LOL. They have a very interesting relationship, he would randomly come around and whisk her away on mini vacations. As a responsible best friend, I expressed to her that something was up with him and she insisted that they had an understanding and I backed off…… I had a feeling he was in a relationship but didn’t want to stick my nose too far into a situation that didn’t belong to me.
Here we are 5 years after they met and the poop has hit the fan. They were getting ready for a long weekend trip together, and she was looking for a good book for the ride. She enjoyed reading the first book he wrote, so she asked him for suggestions for books by other authors in his genre. She didn’t hear back from him soon enough and decided to google him to see what other book suggestions arise. Well, the google search gave her more than she bargained for.
She found out he got married last year and has a newborn baby. Yes, married last year and they’ve been dating (well knowing each other) for 5 years. I could not believe it. How do you lie about your whole life?
To his credit, he never promised my girl long-term, he never made any commitments or sold any dreams, but he lied about his relationship status for years. He never said he was in a committed relationship, never once said he even had a girlfriend, let along a fiancé or a wife, and these were questions she asked on a regular basis. When they met, he told her that he had just gone through a divorce and was enjoying being single. When she confronted him, he said we have a good thing going, and my relationship with my WIFE is complicated. Let’s continue what we have. This man must be crazy to think she would be comforatble being his mistress.
Why are men so freaking selfish. Just going around lying and hurting people. Let’s not even discuss the health risk, when you’re sleeping around with multiple partners and your partners are sleeping with multiple partners. This shows the lack of respect that he has for his marriage and his wife.
What’s even sadder is his amazing, well educated, well-accomplished wife doesn’t know who he really is. This man has a secret life where he is taking other women on trips with their money and sleeping with them. He is putting his family at risk, and I wonder is it really worth the thrill.
I’m shocked that it took my girl this long to google this man. These days, that’s the first thing you do.
Please note: I received her permission to blog about her experience.
9 thoughts on “Was the Thrill Worth it?”
I would say that that no it can’t be worth the thrill because once one woman find out about the other. It’s all going to come crashing down for him. He needs to stop playing around and settle down and take care of his family and stop chasing and selling dreams to other woman. I feel bad that your friend had to go through that experience with him for so long. She deserves better.
I agree, she deserves better! We as women have to be careful and trust our instincts. She felt something was wrong, but believed him.
My jaw was to the ground reading this whole post! You have to be on your toes now a days, do a whole complete background check before we get involved in any type of way smh.
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Girl, we have to investigate! Thank You sooo much!!!!!
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Next! Simple as that. Men only do what they can get away with.
Right! She let the situation go, but not without experiencing pain and heartache. She’s said she may be a lot of things, but Mistress is not one of them.
WTH! First 5 years is too long without any commitment unless you consider him a booty call. Also, it can’t be that complicated if you just had a baby. It is hard out here. Oh Lord! I am just starting to get back in the dating game and I can’t deal with foolishness like this.