Fearless Reloaded Conference

 

Fearless Reloaded

The Fearless Reloaded conference was an awesome and engaging experience. The 3-day conference consisted of a series of panels and networking opportunities. The conference presented many opportunities to engage with Black-Women owned businesses.

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Day 1 – Cocktail Reception

  • The cocktail reception was an awesome kick-off to the conference to engage with panelist and business owners in a relaxed setting.

Day 2 – Fearless Conference – This was a fulfilling 12-hour day!

Personal Note: What an awesome way to wake up on a Saturday. Excellent view (conference held on 27th floor), bomb music (DJ was poppin), and being in a room filled with #BlackGirlMagic!

Keynote Speaker – Pat Smith (Author/Actress)

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    • Theme: Second Chances & Transparency
    • For many years, Pat felt like she had to fake her brokenness and hide her imperfections to be accepted and respected.
    • Use your setbacks, rejections, and down falls as opportunities to re-direct your journey.
    • Losing in the Miss USA pageant altered her perspective and she saw 1st runner up as a failure. She tried to find things to fill the void she developed from losing.
    • She was hurting on the inside, and felt like she had to fake it to make it.
  • Use your test as a testimony and sharing how you encountered and overcame adversity.
    • In order to be fearless, you have to be transparent.
    • “When you’re broken, God can use you.” – Pat
  • Jealousy: She found herself being jealous of her husband for continuing to pursue his interest after football.
    • She had to check herself, and realized she felt this way because she was not walking in her purpose.
    • We can admire, but shouldn’t be envious. When you walk in your own purpose, you can genuinely clap for others success.
    • “If he’s called you for it, he’ll make provisions for it.” Pat

Finance – (Nicole Collette, Dominique Broadway, Erika Blair, Ngum Sue)

    • Theme: How to build wealth and financially invest for the present and future
    • Investment Portfolio should consist of stock, crypto-currency, and real-estate.
      • Stocks
        • Look at what products you use on a regular basis and look for investment opportunities there.
      • Cyrpto-currency
        • Put 5% of your investment portfolio in cryto-currency.
      • Real Estate
        • Buy Tax Lein Properties.
        • Look into Detroit and Baltimore for investment property.
    • Invest in yourself first:
      • Developing a good relationship with your finances
      • Financial Education
      • Monetize on things you enjoy
    • Multiple Streams of income
      • When evaluating multiple streams of income, perfect the first, before moving on to the second.
      • Making your streams of income relatable
        • I.e. Public speaking engagements, books, consulting.

Faith

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  • Daily Spiritual Practices
    • Set aside time daily for personal devotion.
    • Set aside time daily for family devotion.
    • Time Management:
      • Set Priorities
      • Create to-do list
      • Set a strict schedule
  • Pivot in moments of failure and self-doubt.
    • Recognize that you are your biggest critc.
    • Speak positive affirmations to combat the self-doubt.
    • Realize that success is defined by how you fulfill your purpose.
    • “It takes a tribe to launch a successful business” – Christina
    • Surround yourself with people who are ahead of you in business and/or faith to pour into your life.
    • Allow every situation to grow your faith.
  • Refill your cup – Self Care
    • Taking daily & weekly time for self to quiet the noise, shut-down, and unplug.
    • Therapy is an important part of self-care
    • God can’t use you if you’re empty
    • Be careful not to become addicted to busy!
      • You can’t be everything to everybody.
      • Analyze life and lean-in to what needs your attention and what can wait.
      • Evaluate if it’s the time or season for this endeavor.
      • Say yes to important
    • “If you’re always doing, we’re not growing.” – Aventar Gray

Hustlers – (Karen Civil, Karleen Roy, Angel White, Necole Kane, Tahirah Joy, Cesily)

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  • Handling Rejection:
    • Why did we receive this no? Is this an opportunity to re-direct or go harder?
    • When you start feeling uncomfortable in business, it’s time to evaluate your presence in this space.
  • Monetize without overshadowing passion
    • Creating goals for every networking event
    • “Don’t chase the check, chase the relationship!” – Karleen Roy
  • Success
    • In your 20’s, success is doing what brings you a check.
    • In your 30’s success is doing what brings you peace.
  • Strengths / Weaknesses
    • Doing an accurate evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Get a clear understanding of things that bring you joy and move forward in that space.
    • Outsource things that are not a strength and focus your energy on things that make you happy.

Family Business – (McBride Sisters)

  • Theme: Dreaming and Driving
  • Have Unapologetic tenacity: Never apologize for your passion or intelligence
  • Biggest Challenges:
    • No Money
    • No Experience
  • The Journey
    • Started as a wine import company
    • Hit the grown running and went from a wine import company to a wine company in 4 years.
    • Key – Created strategic relationships with large wine companies as mentors and partners and realigned once partnerships were no longer viable.
    • Mentorship
      • It’s important to have mentors and experts around to guide you.

Health & Wellness

  • Heart Disease is killing women
    • 80% of heart disease cases are preventable or reversible.
  • Fibroids
    • 8 out of 10 women suffer from fibroids
    • Fibroids are treatable and a hysterectomy should NOT be the option to treat fibroids.
  • Therapy is IMPORTANT
    • Therapy helps you learn yourself.
    • Vulnerability is a strength.
    • Sharing your highlight wheel is not the most important thing when sharing your journey, being vulnerable and sharing the obstacles are what help other people overcome their obstacles.

Fearless Reunion – (Michelle Williams, Keisha Knight Pulliam, Meagan Good)

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  • Consistent Self-Care Practice
    • Meditation
    • Prayer
    • Affirmation
    • Be Present
    • “Keep your power and not taking ownership of others opinions of you.” – KKP
  • Enjoy the Journey
    • Be aware that you’re in the process
    • Be Patient
    • Work hard until you manifest your dreams into reality.
    • Work to combat imposter syndrome
    • Everything we go through is a vessel to get to the present.
    • Share your journey with others.
  • What would you tell your younger self?
    • It’s ok to have standards. – MW
    • You teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself. – KKP
    • You’re AMAZING and UNSTOPPABLE. There is nothing you can’t accomplish. – KKP
    • You’re worthy. – MG
    • Relinquish the vision of how you thought things were supposed to go and embrace the way things are.

Guest Speaker/ Keynote – Devon Franklin

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  • Key Takeaways from this Talk
    • Success = Peace
    • God is the only one who can direct your story.
    • Make your fears your to-do list.
    • Keep your intentions pure.
    • Problems are an opportunity for reward.
    • Always serve others.
    • Owning your differences and be you you’re supposed to be.
    • We’re all given talent and time:
      • Disengage with people who waste your time
      • Time is like good seed, it produces something.

Day 3 – Fearless Brunch

Mother/Wife/Entrepreneur

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  • Key Takeaways from this Talk
    • You can have it all!!
    • You need to define what having it all is for you.
    • Success is not defined by money, but freedom and flexibility. -Monique Rodriquez (Mielle Organics)
    • Don’t think of trying to balance everything in your life, but how do you integrate everything in your life!
    • Parenthood: your presence is not important, you being present in their life is important.
    • Ruthless prioritization is important and designating time for certain things.
    • Surround yourself with people who are strong where you’re weak. To give you support where you need it.
    • Speak words of encouragement and appreciation to your partner.
    • Communicate with your partner what you’re thinking and how you feel.
    • Success is not Owned it’s rented, and rent is due every day. – quote Monique Rodriquez
    • Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone’s chapter 300. – Monique Rodriquez
    • In our lack, God is more than enough.
    • Stop serving from your fumes, serve from your over flow. – Nikki
    • Peace is the new success.

 

HerFancy30thBDAY

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On December 17, 2016, I turned 30 years old. I have never felt so fulfilled in all of my life. I am a woman who experienced pain, embarrassment, love, loss, death, life, excitement, and accomplishment in my 20’s. I’m excited to close the door to the 20th chapter of my life, and open the door to Chapter 30!

I look forward to seeing my hard work pay off in my 30’s. I’m seeing it now in the first week! I look forward to being more carefree and enjoying every single moment.

I look forward to saying F the stretch marks, and so what if I’m squeezing into my size 6 jeans. Knowing next week, they may be an 8.

I look forward to traveling and seeing the world with my beautiful baby girl!

My 20’s taught me:

1. Strive for Greatness.
2. Stay humble.
3. Give Back.
4. Love yourself.
5. Be relentless about making your dreams a reality.
6. Knowing that what is meant to be will be.
7. Hard work pays off.
8. Be confident.
9. Know your worth.
10. F* your pride.
11. Do what makes you happy.
12. Self-Care is a must.
13. Work-Out.
14. Be kind to others.
15. Allow people to be who they are.
16. Your circle reflects you.
17. Eliminate toxic people from your life.
18. If you focus on you, you won’t see where others are lacking.
19. Have integrity.
20. TRAVEL! – See the world.
21. Use spellcheck.
22. Show appreciation.
23. Be Grateful.
24. Think before you speak.
25. Help heal and not tear down.
26. Write your goals on paper.
27. Be honest and have tact.
28. Privacy is important.
29. Be organized.
30. Slay.

When Your Dreams Become Your Reality!

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Have you ever created a vision for yourself, worked your ass off, had doors close, felt defeated, picked yourself up, and relentlessly continued to pursue what you wanted, and then wallah a BREAKTHROUGH! You look around and you have the opportunity of a lifetime? WELLLLLL…. Let me tell you about my current situation.

2 years ago, when I was graduating from my MBA, I had the opportunity to interview for two amazing companies, I went through multiple rounds of interviewing, I flew out the state for both, to come home empty handed and depressed. I felt so defeated in those moments. I took the time to feel all of those emotions (binge-watching Netflix and not answering my phone) but didn’t allow that to stop me from continuing my journey toward greatness.

Fast forward to June of this year, I came across an opportunity on LinkedIn with one of the most amazing companies in the world. I decided to throw my hat in the ring to be considered. Honestly, I didn’t know if I had a chance in hell, but its something that I wanted.

This position literally had my name written all over it. It was my actual DREAM JOB. First, it spoke to my passion for providing access to opportunity. Second, it is in the industry that I want to work in, technology. Third, It’s major requirements were all of my strengths, building relationships, coaching, sales, and presenting.

After seeing the post on LinkedIn, I sent the recruiter an email expressing my interest, she requested and reviewed my resume, and set-up a phone screen. After the phone screen, I met with the team lead, that started out with some technical difficulties. I was nervous as all hell but was 100 percent me. Over the next two months, I had multiple interviews onsite, via skype, and over the phone with different team members. During these interviews, I laughed, cried, and really felt completely comfortable. I actually didn’t do any prep for the last interview, and in that moment, I knew that this was MY JOB, and it was.

Tomorrow, I am walking on to an AMAZING campus for the Opportunity of a lifetime. I feel honored, happy, proud, excited, nervous, and truly blessed. I feel like a kid before the first day of school. This is my TIME! I say that with confidence and true belief.

Young People…. STOP F*ing up your life.

There is a young woman who is 23 years old. I’ve known her all of her life. Her sister is one of my Best Friends, and our families have been close since before I was born.

This young sista is beautiful and smart (or so I thought). She has not always made the right decisions but really who has? From the outside looking in, I thought she was trying. She had gone out of state for college, but a series of poor decisions brought her home to her sister’s couch without a degree. She ended up finding retail employment for about $12.00 per hour.

Me being the problem-solving diva that I am, I reached out to her to let her know about a free training program in her field of interest that could potentially double her income. This training program would be free to her for 5 to 6 hours a day for 16 weeks. Previous graduates of this program are making between $20.00 to $40.00 per hour.

She led me to believe she was really interested in this opportunity. She attended the orientation, completed the test, and participated in 3 interviews, just to not show up on the first day of class.

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This is a program that had over 100 applicants for 23 spaces. I spoke to the instructor and the counselors to ensure she got into this cohort. I feel like she slapped me in the face and F*d off an opportunity to change her life.

She’s standing still right now, with no direction as to where her life is going. She’s not thinking about her future and is consumed with getting her nails done and ordering the best hair for her sew-in. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s nothing wrong with getting your hair and nails done, but that can’t be the purpose of your life.

I just want to yell, what the hell is wrong with you? You’re not living up to your potential and as an adult, it’s no ones fault but your own. Be accountable, be a woman of your word, and don’t drag other people down with you. I didn’t have to put my name on the line for you, I didn’t have to extend the olive branch to give you a life-changing opportunity, but I did because I love you, I respect you, and I know you could have a bright future if you apply yourself and commit to something.

What’s, even more, sad is the lack of accountability and the need to play the blame game instead of saying I F*d up. I took it back to our Shule Mandela Academy days and recited a portion of a pledge we recited daily that stated: “All learning is not fun, some learning is tedious, but we cannot be black and proud, and all so be dumb, therefore we must learn, we are the next generation.” I get crickets from her, so I’m done. I can no longer help people that don’t want to help themselves.

Fortunately, I don’t mind helping another young sista, I just can’t help her.

Call to Action: Young People, take control of your life and Live life to it’s fullest potential because we only get one. Take advantage of every opportunity and go for all of your dreams!

Teach.Inspire.Motivate.Empower

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Gratitude is a KEY to Success!

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“The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it changes the world you see” – Dr. Robert Holden

 

No Discounts in 2016

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Often times with relationships, all relationships including friendships, romantic relationships, and relationships with family, we let other people treat us in a manner that doesn’t make us feel good. We allow them to lie to us (discount), make fools of us (discount), and not be people of their word (discount). When we allow people to treat us in this manner, we feel hurt, we feel unworthy, and we feel insignificant. When we let people do this to us time and time again, we are giving them discounts, which show how we feel about ourselves as oppose to how another person feels about us. When you know your value, you don’t give discounts.

When you think of High-end Luxury brands, you’ll notice that they don’t discount their prices, because they know their worth, and understand that people, who value their product, will pay what is asked. We need to know our worth, and when people don’t value and/or appreciate us, we need to let them go. In life, some people will be leaves, others will be branches, and it’s up to us to figure out who deserves to be permanent fixtures in our lives.

I’m not allowing people to treat me like I’m a fool in 2016, it is true that I don’t have control over their actions, but I do have control over who is a part of my life, and this year I’m moving forward to live Happy, Healthy, and Wealthy. I have no time for people seeking discounts, people who are constantly taking and never giving, people who are not equally yoked, and people that don’t appreciate the value I contribute.

I wish you all a Joyous, Prosperous, and Happy 2016!

Teach.Inspire.Motivate.Empower

Picture from the amazing artist Pienele Chill

The Power of Excellence!

The Power of Excellence

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Last weekend, I had the pleasure of attending #AACHAC’s Women’s Health Conference! Can I tell you, it was one of my favorite moments of 2015! It started with a great energizing welcome, which led to a series of workshops! I attended a cooking workshop and a financial literacy workshop! In between my workshops, I received a massage and a manicure! It was GREAT! The highlight of my day came when I heard the Amazing Amy Hilliard as the Keynote!

She is the President of Fashion Fair Cosmetics and the Founder of ComfortCakes! She is a Howard University Graduate and a HARVARD MBA! Can you say -AWESOME! She spoke about the principals of Success and her new book TAP Into Your Juice: Find Your Gifts, Lose Your Fears, and Build Your Dreams! What a powerful message!

As I sat and Listened to Amy, I felt empowered to continue to move forward, one thing that she said that really stuck with me and that was that as long as you can look up, you can get up! It is never too late to follow your dreams, it’s never too early to follow your dreams. We have to learn how to walk in our greatness and our purpose in every moment of our life!

2 years ago at this same conference, I felt inspired by Amy’s sister Gloria! Gloria Mayfield Banks, MARY KAY extraordinaire! She was so uplifting, motivating, inspiring, empowering, and EXCELLENT! These are two blood sisters, who both went to Howard University for Undergrad, and Harvard Business School for professional degrees! One sister became a Marketing Expert, and the Other a Sales Expert, and the both are examples of Excellence! I admire them for being my career inspiration, my mentors in my head, and everything that I hope to be! #BlackGirlMagic

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I got 99 problems, but a BARBER ain’t one!

I got 99 problems, but a BARBER ain’t one!
So…..I was referred to a barber by a friend of mine. He said “dude is a cat*, but he’ll cut you right”. I started laughing and said ok, I’ll try him out.

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When I arrived at the location, I walked into a beauty shop first, and his barbering area was in the rear. Being in an environment that had an equal amount of men and women made me feel a little more at ease. He was running late and had people waiting, so I made a mental note that he may have an issue with being on time. He was very personable and asked me a lot of questions that made me feel relaxed, and he put the cape around me and went to work. I’m sitting there with a few butterflies in my stomach as my hair hit the floor, but excited to see the outcome. As I turned around and faced the mirror, I was Shocked. It was low…. Real low… I didn’t know if I liked it or not, but I knew he gave me a great cut. It was feminine, even, and cut well. After leaving the shop, I went to my sister, and she dyed it brown (I had too many natural highlights aka grey hairs), and after it was dyed, I fell in love with my hair. I felt empowered! Cinderella had finally found her slipper.

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It can be difficult being a woman with short hair, and to not have people cut it properly can really feel devastating. It messes with your self-esteem.
Since my first haircut, I’ve gone back on three separate occasions. Honestly he is the best barber, but boy can he tell a story, and he’s never on time, but hey, I look great!

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Cat* – a person who is always talking, but never says anything with substance. Not trustworthy.

LIVE YOUR LEGEND

LIVE YOUR LEGEND

I was home this weekend and decided to watch a few TED TALKS that my friend recommended. OMG, I felt so intrigued by the idea of LIVING YOUR LEGEND! As humans, we are often faced with decisions that will change our life, and we usually choose what is safe vs. what we truly desire. We choose what is safe because we don’t feel good enough to have what we really want. We let our feelings of inadequacy and insecurity prevent us from following our dreams and desires. Living Your Legend is about finding your passion and unapologetically going after what you want and the life you want.

This came to me at a perfect time in my life. I’m in a place of transition and right now I’m sitting in a parking lot trying to figure out what path I want to take. I often feel beaten up, discouraged, inadequate, and fearful, because I’ve faced rejection so many times. After while you start to believe that you’ll never have what you desire, because it’s so hard to attain. I’ve realized that I have to encourage myself! I have to know that what is meant for me is for me and if I don’t get what think I want, it may be for the best.

I wish all of you a happy and productive week and remember to LIVE YOUR LEGEND!